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How do I know if my Partner is Having an Affair?

Infidelity or cheating can be a devastating experience for anyone in a relationship. It can be challenging to know if your partner is cheating on you or if it’s just your insecurities getting the best of you. However, if you suspect your partner of cheating, there are some signs that can help you confirm your doubts.

  1. Change in Behavior One of the most common signs of infidelity is a sudden and significant change in behavior. If your partner is cheating, they may become distant, moody, irritable, or defensive. They may start to spend more time away from home or have new hobbies or interests that they are secretive about. They may also suddenly start paying more attention to their appearance, dressing differently, and grooming themselves more frequently.

  2. Lack of Communication If your partner is cheating, they may start to avoid communication with you. They may not respond to your messages or phone calls, or they may be vague and evasive when you try to talk to them. They may also avoid discussing important issues or problems in your relationship.

  3. Change in Sex Life If your partner is cheating, their sexual behavior with you may change. They may become more or less interested in sex, or they may start to try new things in bed that they have never shown interest in before. They may also become more distant or disconnected during sex, or they may start to compare you unfavorably to someone else.

  4. Secretive Behavior If your partner is cheating, they may become more secretive about their activities. They may start to keep their phone or computer password-protected, or they may start to delete messages or emails. They may also start to keep their schedule more tightly controlled, and they may become defensive or angry when you ask about their whereabouts.

  5. Unexplained Expenses If your partner is cheating, they may start to spend money on things that they can’t explain. For example, they may start to buy new clothes or jewelry or spend money on expensive dinners or trips. If you notice that your partner is spending more money than usual, and they can’t explain where the money is going, it may be a sign that they are cheating.

  6. Gut Feeling Sometimes, the most reliable indicator that your partner is cheating is your gut feeling. If you have a sense that something is off or that your partner is hiding something, it’s essential to pay attention to that feeling. Your intuition can be a powerful tool in helping you identify when something is wrong in your relationship.

If you suspect that your partner is cheating, it’s important to approach the situation with caution and care. Accusing your partner of cheating without concrete evidence can damage your relationship and your partner’s trust in you. It’s important to have an open and honest conversation with your partner about your concerns.


When talking to your partner, it’s important to approach the conversation calmly and without accusations. Start by expressing your feelings and concerns and asking for their perspective. Be honest and straightforward about what you have observed and how it makes you feel. Remember to listen to your partner’s side of the story and keep an open mind.


If your partner admits to cheating, it’s important to take some time to process your emotions and decide what you want to do next. It may be helpful to seek the guidance of a therapist or counselor to help you navigate your emotions and make a decision about the future of your relationship.


In conclusion, if you suspect that your partner is cheating, there are some common signs that you can look out for. However, it’s essential to approach the situation with care and caution and have an open and honest conversation with your partner. Remember to trust your gut and seek the guidance of a professional if you need help processing your emotions and making a decision about your relationship’s future.


Contact us at 416 949 9878 or www.georgetowncouplestherapy.com to learn how we can help you recover from an affair.



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